Baby & Mom Blog: December 2006

Sunday, December 31, 2006

Tuesday, December 26, 2006

Our First Xmas Celebration

This year A is aware of all holidays celebrations so we are trying to do everything the proper way. I wanted to celebrate Xmas since A was few months old but didn’t. And now since A is equally excited I look forward to festivals & other holiday celebrations.

I got fake tree the year A was born so spend 2 hr. to find it;-) It’s a small one that comes with everything so I put it few days’ back. A & Gudiya helped me, A by putting the ornaments on the tree & Gudiya by putting them in her mouth. With their help I was done in 20 minutes;-)

I wanted to get 1-2 toys for each but A start counting how many things he wanted from Santa. It started with nothing, then 2 candies & lollipops, then lots of candy & lollipops then lots of toys, candies & lollipops then he added coconut in the list too;-) With his growing list I started collecting things a month back.

During A’s time we got every toy for him that we liked but during Gudiya I swear not to buy anything expensive cuz we already out of the room to put them & we have most of good toys anyway. She never showed interest in toys so never felt guilty about not buying her stuff like A.

So this time too I decided to get more but less expensive toys than just one expensive one. Went to couple of stores and got few good things on clearance. Then bought few games & puzzles. I made sure to get something that they will be using it often. It worked out great. They were happy opening up all the gifts & we were happy to get stuff we were gonna buy for them anyway;-) Everything cost less than what we would’ve spent on 2 toys for them;-)

I got hubby a jacket & tried to hide it but he guessed it that it was something for him ;-) He waited till y’day morning to see it though:-) He wanted to get something for me (I think because I got for him and he thought of too, but he said he was gonna buy for me anyway;-) On Xmas eve he went out and got a jacket for me too;-) I already have lots of perfume & jewelry set so he couldn’t think of anything else;-) He said he was gonna get something sexy but lots of girls were in THAT section so he didn’t go there..LOL!!
We wrapped the gifts till 1:30 in the morning cuz I didn’t want kids to see it and A slept around 11:30. It was so much fun.. I wrapped few things then I cut the paper & he wrapped them.. We watched KANK while getting the gifts ready.. I love to spend time like that:-) Oh & when I fell asleep he went downstairs to get my present & put it near the tree ;-)

Because Santa is Good

Mommy, do we have grapes (A’s favorite)

No but we have Apples & Bananas.. Do you want to eat?

No, I want to give it to Santa.

Why?

Because Santa is Good. He gives presents to everybody and I want to give him present too..

Oh Ok but he might not want to eat fruits so you want to give him something else?

Yeah, Chocolate..

Well we got chocolate box for Santa, wrap it nicely & went to see Santa. Two days we stood in the lines but couldn’t wait for our turn because of those long lines. Finally the third day we found a Santa & NO LINES so wanted to give him the gift & make A happy cuz since 2 day all he was talking about was giving gift to Santa. Hubby wanted to look for real looking Santa cuz this Santa had very sad eyes but at that point I just wanted to make A happy & go home. He gave Santa his gift & Santa was so happy to receive first gift ever;-)

A was happy that he gave the present to Snata.. Snata was happy to receive very first gift from anybody and We were happy seeing our parenting efforts going in right direction..

I am so proud of A. I hope he stays this way and spread the real holiday spirit to everybody around him, which is not only take but to give too. This time it came from his heart & I hope on every holiday he will make a difference:-)

Wednesday, December 20, 2006

My 2 Birth Stories

at the request of themadmamma :-)

I had few complications when I was pregnant with A. I started bleeding in early weeks, and then I got type2 diabetes later. Went for couple of NST’s(every other day in last 2 weeks) cuz A kept sitting on his cord & skip breathing for few seconds which made my last few weeks very stressful. I was already 1 ½ cm dilated since 38th week.. My doc was going to china a week before my due date so she asked me to have c-section before she leaves but I said no. She suggested not waiting since I wasn’t progressing any further but I decided to wait for few more days hoping to go into labour naturally.

She left & suggested another doc. We went to meet him on the 7th. . He was such great guy & not in favor of unnecessary c-section. I was due on April11th.That day came and went by without any sign of labour.. On Saturday, the 12th, I went for NST and A sat on the cord again. They contacted the doc again & now he didn’t want to wait any more (for insurance reason). So I got admitted in the hospital where they induce me and next morning I broke my water but I wasn't progressing till afternoon. Around 2 in the afternoon I felt 2 contractions and asked for epidural. By the time my third contraction was over I had epidural;-) The Epidural guy was Punjabi so the whole time he was there we were talking about stuff back home & food;-) I didn’t even feel a thing.. great experience..

½ hr. later while we were just looking at the monitor & saw A’s heartbeat went almost flat. I told hubby to go get the nurse but before my hubby could leave, my favorite nurse came running & stimulate from “there”, which made A move, otherwise they had to do c-section within those few minutes.. I got so scared.. Once the heartbeat was ok they paged the doc & he told them to prepare for c-section. Doc came around 3:40 & explained everything. We were in OT around 4:30 And A was born at 5:01 pm. Everything went great.. I woke up in labour room and was feeling very very cold so asked for few blankets & a cup of tea.

Don’t know when hubby went & got the tea cuz when I woke up he was telling me to drink. I told him to call India.. Took 2 sips & was out againl:-)

Then I woke up in the postpartum room. Asked for A.. They brought him in the room. I wanted to keep him with me but they wouldn’t let me since I wasn’t totally conscious. I told them that hubby will be there at night and since it was private room no one can come inside anyway so they left him with me.. I fell in love with him the minute I saw him:-)

The next day I started walking even though nurses didn’t let me till afternoon but I was fine by evening. They were asking me if I was going to have baby or I already had;-) 3 nurses came to see me in the room cuz they were surprised to see someone back to normal before 24hr. of c-section (without any pain killer since morning) . I was happy:-)

During Gudiya, It was so tiring cuz from beginning she was kindda on the side. I could not lie down on any side even when I was few weeks pregnant. I used to feel very heavy every time I tried to sleep on side but my doc never believed me. I didn’t have any complication during pregnancy but I was so restless the whole time.. I had a choice of c-section or VBAC but based on my last pregnancy I had great chances of ending up with c-section any way so went ahead with c-section decision and I didn’t want to go for VBAC & rip the previous c-section scar open.

We decided to have c-secion on Dec 21st 7:30am

but I already started having contraction around 5 in the morning so delayed going to hospital. Callled the doc saying that I was in lots of pain so will be there ASAP. We reached the hospital around 10:30. Since our c-section time was over & doc wasn’t there, we had to wait long time in the registration area.. Once they got our doc on the phone we were finally on our way to delivery room. I had called couple of friends there to take care of A so that hubby can stay with me during c-section. By the time we were leaving they got there too..

Nurses were really bitchy this time.. My sweet nurse from A’s time works in the night shift so I was bit

disappointed. A was not ready to stay with my friends and was running around everywhere in the hallway so hubby had to run after him. I was expecting my doc to be bitchy but surprisingly she was fine.. I was contracting verrrryyy slowly so they wanted to have the c-section done soon but OT wasn’t available. So we waited for sometime & got it.

A wasn’t ready to stay with my friends so my friend came with me in the OT. She was born around 11:45(I think). I wanted to get my tubes tight this time so it took longer. I woke up in delivery room with every one around me. I couldn’t wait to see her.. During A’s time

I saw him before they gave my full med but this time they have to do more work so I was sleeping before the surgery started. I asked my hubby about her and before he could answer I was out;-) Then woke up sometime later & talk to my friends.. I was falling asleep before finishing sentence and every time I woke up and start asking something everyone start to smile..

Finally woke up in recovery room. Asked for Gudiya. Felt so happy & satisfied after that. Friends called & relatives from India were calling seconds times cuz they didn’t get to talk to me the first time they called. Soon friends left.. Nurses took the baby & hubby left with A. I knew I was gonna be Ok so I wanted A to have a restful night.

I wanted to see her again but nurse wouldn’t let me.. Actually I had bigger surgery this time and I wasn’t fully awake.. I was in so much pain even with the med and that was making me so sleepy. They didn’t want to leave the baby with me but I wanted to see her so badly that they had to bring her in;-) I told her if I start to feel sleepy I would call her to take the baby. I really struggled to sit up and see her cuz my incision this time was from one leg to other and I could hardly move without putting any pressure on it. I called the nurse to put her in my arms. I spend sometime looking at her before feeling sleepy. I loved her but I didn’t feel connected like A’s time. Maybe because I was in lots of pain or feeling really really bad leaving A the first time. I wasn’t worried about the surgery but leaving A alone with hubby was major tension for last few weeks;-) I called the nurse to take her and as soon they took her I fell asleep.

I woke up few times in so much pain.

Called the nurse to give my more pain med but I was already getting morphine. She told me press the button more if I wanted more med. (it was a drip and I had to press the button after counting 6 and now I was doing it after every 3 sec.) Fell asleep again & woke up feeling a little better. Called the nurse to bring my baby. It was around midnight so kept her with me on my bed till morning.. They took her before their shift change.

Was feeling ok in the morning. Had breakfast, change cloths & asked for Gudiya again:-) She was with me on my bed the whole time even though nurses said I was spoiling her and will be a problem after I get home but who cares.. We are born to spoil our kids;-) Second day they took her and refuse to give her to me cuz they thought I needed rest but I went to nursery & cried after seeing her crying there..(Postpartum Blues;-) They just let them cry there. So told them I don’t care and

I want her in my room. She told me to send my nurse cuz I wasn’t allowed to push the cart. Finally got her in my room after 10 minutes. Afterwards I didn’t let them take her at all. I changed her & feed her in my room. Only time they were allowed to touch her was when I wanted to put her with me on my bed… That time I needed someone to hold her to me, as it was very hard for me to sit or lay down on the bed. I was walking in my room the whole time so that I won’t have any problem after coming home.

Hubby & A were visiting every day but A wanted to run around so hubby was just running after him the whole time so I told him to stay home & not come to visit. We were finally home after 3 days..

Madmomma, I wrote whatever I could remember.. A was born in 2003 & Gudiya was born in 2004 so I feel confused sometimes thinking if something happened during A’s time or Gudiya’s;-) But its almost how it went:-)

Wishing you smooth remaining weeks of pregnancy and quick & easy labour:-)

Updated to add
The reason madmamma started this because some people think having c-section is easy way out. I don’t think so. If you think about it, the vaginal one is less hard(not using "easier" word cuz giving birth is NOT easy by any choice) unless its totally natural birth cuz you get epidural, don’t feel anything waist down & just push on instruction.. Once the baby is born you are done & feel sore for couple of day only but with c-section you can’t even sit properly without feeling the pain on incision for weeks or even months cuz every time u try to do something, u feel ur whole body’s weight & pressure there. Even 2 years later I still feel sharp pain in the beginning of the incision. According to my doc its thread’s knot:-(

So madmamma, don’t listen to those who are not mature enough to think why people make certain choices.. They just don’t care to know the exact circumstances some people face..

Tuesday, December 19, 2006

Sigh

Gudiya is still not feeling too well.. She had fever till last week & very bad cough. Even though her ped told me to wait for couple of day, I got her blood test done last Monday cuz I didn’t want to give her any unnecessary medicine when I know she won’t be feeling better with that. They had to prick her both arms to get the blood cuz it wasn’t enough from one side. Getting urine from her was a totally different story cuz she didn’t want to pee in a cup & every time I put those urine collecting thingy in diaper, she pooped on them.

Blood test came out normal but she still was coughing a lot so took her again on Friday. Doc gave the med and now if she is not all better till Friday we have to get the chest x-ray done. I think this med is asthma related & even if she is better, we have to get the nubulizer procedure done. I knew things would be bad after A will start daycare but never imagined they will be this bad.

She has become so clingy, cranky & jealous these days so didn’t get the chance to visit all the blogs. Hopefully she will be better by this weekend & things will be back to normal.

P.S Boo, I know its been a while since I said that I will do the baby tag but will definitely do it by Thursday.
And Madmomma, I will write those birth stories (whatever I remember) soon too. (hopefully by friday :-)

Getting big

We always tell A that if eats his food he will get big & strong otherwise Gudiya will finish his food & get bigger than him and this trick works almost always works..:-) Yesterday when I picked him up, I said ahhh.. He got so happy and asked me

I am getting big, mamma?

Yes, you are:-)

(He got very excited and showed me his arm)
My arms are getting big, mamma.

Yes.

My legs are getting big mamma.

My eyes are getting big.

My nose is getting big.

My ears are getting big.

My eyebrows are getting big.

My fingers are getting big.

My head is getting big.

My tummy is getting big.

And my Pee-Pee is getting big too..:-)

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Letter to Santa

Can you read it? He told me what he wanted to write & I spelt for him:-)

Dear Santa

I am a good boy. I want lots of(a smiling face in O before "of" cuz he was happy:-)Toys and candy and coconut:-) And for my sister too.

Thursday, December 07, 2006

Bye-Bye School

Since September A is been suffering from cold & cough.. In last 3 years we never had to go to doc for any winter issues but this time we already went 3 times for each kid.. This season is first time for the antibiotics, that too two times already.. Then I got sick too.. Same virus as kids.. So I decided to keep him home for winter cuz its really hard to take care of 2 sick kids at the same time..

We talk to his school director about leaving and the next day we got call from the high school of our area about an opening in their school program for 3 year old kids.. This is a program by our city’s board of education in the high school where they teach high school kids to take care of kids under the supervision of a teacher. We came to know about this program few months back but by then they were already full. Still I put his name in the waiting list even though the director said its of no use..

So after receiving the call from the director we went to check out everything.. It nothing compares to his old school but we were going to leave that school anyway so it sounds good for some proper school activities like circle time & socialization issue with other kids. And now he won’t be missing out any school stuff.

Since he goes to afternoon session from 12:25-2:25, he gets to sleep cozy till late in the morning:-). And the teacher student ratio is 1:1 and sometimes 2:1… Really, there are as many student-teachers as kids.. First day we went there, we saw a kid crying and there were 3 girls trying to make that little girl feel better.. It was nice to see that..

So now these days we get up, have breakfast, play a little while & leave for school.. I come home, have lunch with Gudiya & we are off to pick him up.. By the time A takes shower & eat lunch, it is already 4. Mornings are easy but rest of the day is hectic.. A is enjoying this school too but had few issues in the beginning, like “Mamma, there is only one bathroom in this school”, “Mamma, there are so many teachers in this school” , “they are all babies in my class”(Since this is for 3 years old kids so some are 3 & few are 31/2 & up, not like his other school where everyone was almost same age).

Anyways, today was his 4th day here & he is all happy.. He didn’t want to stay there on Saturday so we spent ½ hr. that day & left. His teacher asked me to leave him there that day but I didn’t want him to cry so she asked me “So, he won’t cry on Monday?” “No, he won’t.. I hope :-)” And guess what he didn’t cry on Monday.. yayyyy:-) When I went to pick him up she said “He totally blend in:-) Other kids are here since Oct beside 1 girl who cry every day but he was just great":-) I am so proud of A:-)

Wednesday, December 06, 2006

Why Krishna is not a good boy..

What do you want to eat A?

Makhan

Ok, I will go get Makhan for my little Krishna.

I am not Krishna, Mamma.

You want to eat Makhan all the time so you are my little Krishna.

No Mamma, Krishna is not a good boy…

Why?

Because He doesn’t listen to his Mamma and he always bothers her. I am a good boy and I always listen to you.

:-)))

Tuesday, December 05, 2006

Save Nirali

The evening of my kid’s surgery day I got an email about Nirali and the next morning I just couldn’t stop going to marrow donor drive to support. They are still looking for the right donor & the poor kid is going through a lot. Please pray for her and support her by going to marrow drive in your area.

Sunday, December 03, 2006

Krishna

Few days back we got Krishna movie for kids, thinking they will enjoy it like they did Hanuman and Ganesha but after watching it for few minutes they were bored. Since Friday I tried to make them watch 2-3 times but they weren’t interested at all. They wanted to watch other movies but not Krishna.

I don’t blame them cuz it has very poor animation & you get headache after watching it for a little while. Eventually A liked some “Makhan chori” scene & wanted to watch it. Since then he wanted to eat makhan too so I made oatmeal for him & he finished it:-) Y’day morning I asked him what he wanted for breakfast & he asked for makhan:-) Now he likes to sleep like krishna, on his side & one hand under his cheek:-) But when I ask him if he wants to watch the movie, he still is not interested in watching it again..

If you are thinking of buying this movie, don’t waste ur money. It is not worth it. Get Hanuman instead… Hanuman was the best Indian animated movie I saw & I still can watch it 2-3 times a day. I was hoping Ganesha movie would be like Hanuman too but it was only half as good as Hanuman, still it was not that bad but Krishna is just way too puppet like movie..

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