tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post9115582787945835817..comments2023-11-02T03:18:16.294-04:00Comments on Baby & Mom Blog: The Decisionmommyof2http://www.blogger.com/profile/03195439582301723768noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-51834675624883493252007-02-20T12:35:00.000-05:002007-02-20T12:35:00.000-05:00MO2, Right now I am in your friend's shoes... one...MO2,<BR/> Right now I am in your friend's shoes... one child close to 4 and every minute I sense and feel he is lonely. I am mentally prepared for another child but we have other reasons why we want to put off having a second child for atleast another yr if not 2...so maybe when I have a seocnd child A will already be 5 0r even 6 and I really hope it won't be too late. You are lucky!By Deepa and Supriyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07747804542943614606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-66626600431545640292007-02-20T11:12:00.000-05:002007-02-20T11:12:00.000-05:00Hi there MO2,Can't comment on the decision, but it...Hi there MO2,<BR/>Can't comment on the decision, but it was very sweet to read about the kids antics!<BR/><BR/>NeeNeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13715963089499430607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-25032293870787211612007-02-20T09:48:00.000-05:002007-02-20T09:48:00.000-05:00sush: Good Luck:-)Its not easy to make choice;-)sa...<B>sush:</B> Good Luck:-)Its not easy to make choice;-)<BR/><BR/><B>sandhya:</B> right, You can justified any choice you make:-)But it is how it should be..No matter what decision you make,you give it lot of thoughts and then decide what works for you and no matter what you choose, its the best for YOU and thats all matter:-)All options, choices are fine but different people choose things according to their different personalites, views, experiences & circumstances:-)Now, one of my bhua had kids 13 years after the first one and it worked the best cuz her daughter used to take care of the youngerone;-) Its like 2 moms in the house:-)mommyof2https://www.blogger.com/profile/03195439582301723768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-40062452137913836672007-02-19T22:54:00.000-05:002007-02-19T22:54:00.000-05:00I think it varies from person to person. My brothe...I think it varies from person to person. My brother and i are 1/5 years apart and we fought a lot over everything and drove our parents nuts ;). We played well alright, but we fought just as much. And i still remember saying -'You are not my boss. You are just 1.5 yrs older than me. You can't tell me what to do' very often. So there is nothing like a perfect situation. Things are perfect in each family the way they are. If your kids were spaced 3-4 yrs aprt, you wouldn't have lamented that they are not very close to each other because of that, right? You'd have justified it anyways ;)<BR/>-SandhyaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-14342536843989188422007-02-19T17:35:00.000-05:002007-02-19T17:35:00.000-05:00that is interesting and thought provokingthat is interesting and thought provokingSreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13082583834274490505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-65382342702904848962007-02-19T13:12:00.000-05:002007-02-19T13:12:00.000-05:00@: I think I am lucky to have them:-) And there w...<B>@:</B> I think I am lucky to have them:-) And there was/is “Ms. Hitler” time for few minutes or seconds everyday;-) It is a part of my motherhood book;-) I believe if yelling works you don’t need to spank them, so I make sure my yelling works;-) <BR/><BR/>“And I agree with your decision”<BR/>I think its better here since you don’t have neighborhood like India to play with kids. But the options, having them less or more years apart or just having 1 kid or 14(I saw on tv), have their own good & bad sides and everybody has to see which works for them:-)mommyof2https://www.blogger.com/profile/03195439582301723768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-73583412175742260962007-02-19T12:33:00.000-05:002007-02-19T12:33:00.000-05:00a little light: Well me too:-)He even gives me suc...<B>a little light:</B> Well me too:-)He even gives me such feel of security & happiness that I wish I had a brother or sister like him;-) <BR/><BR/><B>ganesh:</B>She feels jealous because she can't stand anybody else getting attention:-)<BR/><BR/><B>Asha, Starry Nights:</B> I think everybody try to make the best decision. I am not saying that having kids close together is the best decision but having them close together is best for me & I planned that way because of my circumstances:-) I grew up alone and I never had the closeness of parents so my all bets were on my marriage where I wanted to be like old wives with so many kids and cooking together & everybody in the kitchen eating, you get the pic;-) Well this didn’t turn out like that either;-) After I had A, I was so happy & I wanted to have the next one soon so that we could bond together (hubby is a different story;-). I wasn’t working & didn’t feel like going through sleepless night again after few year. And having them less years apart added more joy in my life since they are having fun doing same type of silly things together:-)<BR/><BR/>Still I think somehow I should give more attention to A. You don’t know how many nights I sleep feeling guilty that I couldn’t give time to A. But hey, every decision has a good & bad side & I am working on it:-) But I saved 3–4 years;-) now I will be done by the time they are 5-6 cuz then they will be mature enough & life will be back to normal but YOU waited 10-11 years;-) HA j/k lol!!<BR/><BR/><B>keshi:</B> My step sister tried to throw the younger one out of the window. During every fight older one used to say “Why didn’t I throw you then”:-) lol But thankfully my son has feeling like me.. he smothers her:-)<BR/><BR/>And you are nothing but sweet:-)<BR/><BR/><B>artnavy:</B> yes, its different for everybody:-) I have friends with one kid and everybody in their family, including their kid, is happy with this decision & their kid don’t act like the girl I mentioned in my post. My friend (in post) wants to have another one but her hubby is not ready. If you made the decision of having one kid & you can keep him/her happy then you are right otherwise keep that option open;-)<BR/><BR/><B>the mad momma:</B> Oh no, Im not looking for one:-) I just wanted to say that it’s the best decision I made, even though I too doubt sometimes when I feel like A should get more attention from us, still good side of this decision are way more than that:-) He is having fun full childhood since the day he is aware of the concept of having fun:-) You are so right about closeness & friendship.. That’s what I had in my mind when I decided;-) My kids are 20m 1week apart. I post it earlier in answer to ur question but you never checked back;-)mommyof2https://www.blogger.com/profile/03195439582301723768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-10625108735503109292007-02-19T11:45:00.000-05:002007-02-19T11:45:00.000-05:00you parent with a good sense of humor, Mo2, and yo...you parent with a good sense of humor, Mo2, and your kids are lucky - if it were any other way, you might be Ms Hitler, expecting two naughty toddlers to behave all the time. Instead you count your little blessings such as <I>"They draw on each other hands & feet instead of mine"</I> :-) <BR/>And I agree with your decision...for long term benefits, and from observing other families, I have concluded that having kids close to each other is a lot better than a wide age gap.Anushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03887052887207435095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-40450650541949746072007-02-19T11:11:00.000-05:002007-02-19T11:11:00.000-05:00You will rarely get agreement on this.. but I thin...You will rarely get agreement on this.. but I think two kids close in age is perfect. its two years of hardwork but you are gifting them a lifetime of friendship and closeness. my brother and I are 14 months apart and my babies will be 22 months apart. No one on earth is closer to me than my brother and we had a blast growing up together. what is the age diff between your babies? why dont you go to lilypie.com and put up birthday tickers so we can follow their growth too?!the mad mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535453643548976883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-82041849701119500062007-02-19T03:53:00.000-05:002007-02-19T03:53:00.000-05:00i am an only child and i think i did finei cant im...i am an only child and i think i did fine<BR/><BR/>i cant imagine having a second one anytime soon <BR/><BR/>i guess it varies case to case<BR/><BR/>and yes- too much kissing- no never- it is a really wonderful thingArtnavyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15060564468230843716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-46122546522394600072007-02-19T00:21:00.000-05:002007-02-19T00:21:00.000-05:00Im the youngest in our family. My sis apparently h...Im the youngest in our family. My sis apparently hit me on the head with a powder tin when I was born. LOL look how jealous she was! And that may also explain why Im a bit mental too.<BR/><BR/>Keshi.Keshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147250771662427208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-28463423115826777222007-02-18T18:27:00.000-05:002007-02-18T18:27:00.000-05:00My kids are exactly six years apart and were plann...My kids are exactly six years apart and were planned that way.I have no regrets.did not have any problem and like Asha said the older one sure helped a lot with the younger one.Now they are teens and he looks up to his older sister and I am also happy we have a few years to recover between the kids to pay their college tuition.I think either way its hard when kids are young but before you know it they will be grown .starryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00250437477875291892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-10299166910658153072007-02-18T13:03:00.000-05:002007-02-18T13:03:00.000-05:00My kids have exactly 4 yrs gap between them and bo...My kids have exactly 4 yrs gap between them and both babies were VERY planned and executed like military fashion!:D<BR/><BR/>Trisha is a great baby sitter.As soon as she was 11 yrs old,we would leave them both at home and go for a movie or shopping which we didn't do for 11yrs!!<BR/><BR/>Now we have 4 yrs time for saving for Tushar's college while we pay for Trisha's! Can you imagine if both are in college at the same time and paying $40000 per year for Public college?! Phew!<BR/><BR/>Enjoy the kiddies while they are young.My kids are not fussy either and ALWAYS loved school.FHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16120251231228218853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-86234599117202431592007-02-18T09:02:00.000-05:002007-02-18T09:02:00.000-05:00Younger siblings do invite a bit of jealousy from ...Younger siblings do invite a bit of jealousy from the older child because of the less attention he recieves. But that is temporary, as time goes on, it will instill a sense of responsibility to take care of the younger child.Ganesh Ranganathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964999212961469918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31600903.post-44113462980039300792007-02-18T02:04:00.000-05:002007-02-18T02:04:00.000-05:00Thats so cute mommyof2, i hope i had a brother lik...Thats so cute mommyof2, i hope i had a brother like A :-)..pls pass on my kisses to both of them!Li'l Litehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00987895183947911563noreply@blogger.com